Dr. Blonna discusses his new book on YouTube: www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=28&v=RDKqWcwhbEs.%5B/caption%5D
How do you keep your sexual passion alive after you’ve been with your partner for 10, 20 or more years and have had sex thousands of times together?
“The key is using sexual mindfulness to approach each erotic encounter with your partner as something new and fresh. Sexual mindfulness helps you adopt a ‘Beginner’s Mind,’ the Buddhist term for looking at things as if you are experiencing them for the first time,” said Dr. Rich Blonna, a world-renowned expert in understanding how the mind and body work together to reduce stress and enhance sex.
In his new book, “Sexual Mindfulness” (www.Publishizer.com, 2018), Dr. Rich Blonna provides a road map for achieving great sex with fun, easy to master exercises and information that guide you through his sexual mindfulness training program.
He is a retired Professor Emeritus from William Paterson University in New Jersey. For over 25 years he has devoted himself to helping people stress less and have better sex lives. As a Coach (BCC), Counselor (NCC), and Health Education Specialist (CHES) he combines the best practices from each of these disciplines to make his books and training courses fun and instantly useable. In his sexuality work he combines mindfulness and acceptance to help you shift your focus off of unhelpful thoughts, feelings, and actions and onto what is going on in the present moment with your partner and your sexual environment. His books, courses, and coaching have helped thousands of students and clients around the world enhance their personal sexuality and their sexual relationships.
According to Blonna, “mindfulness is best described as nonjudgmental moment-by-moment awareness where you are fully engaged in the present moment with all five of your senses. All mindful sexual moments are (1) present centered, (2) non conceptual, (3) non-judgmental, and (4) non-verbal.”
For example, imagine that you are having sex with your partner. If you were doing it mindfully here is what would be happening:
One hundred percent of your attention would be focused on your partner and your sexual environment. All of your senses would be involved in what is going on in the present moment.
Your thoughts would focus on the experience of making love with your partner. They would not drift to something that happened in the past or jump to what might happen in the future.
You wouldn’t try to figure anything out about your partner or your lovemaking or try to anticipate what would happen next. Instead of thinking about this you would simply notice and accept what is going on in the present moment.
You wouldn’t judge or compare your partner or your lovemaking to some societal standard. You would enjoy and accept your partner and your lovemaking for what it is, not for what it could be or should be.
Lastly, you wouldn’t be discussing anything. Any messages you needed to communicate would be done by touch, or a simple look, or moan.
“Imagine what you sex life would be like if you or your partner could approach each sexual experience in such a mindful way,” he said.
Dr. Blonna truly believes that even if you’ve been together for 5, 10, or 47 years like he and his wife have been, your lovemaking will never go stale if you can bring moment-by-moment mindfulness to each sexual encounter.
According to Dr. Blonna, “Sexual mindfulness enables you to look at each sexual encounter with your partner as new and unique because you’ve learned that each moment in life is new and unique.”
For more information or to order a copy of “Sexual Mindfulness,” visit publishizer.com/sexual-mindfulness/.