Another Valentine’s Day has come and gone, and if you celebrated with the one you love, bestowed gifts, flowers, and a romantic candlelight dinner, now that’s a beautiful thing.
Then there are the rest of us who tried valiantly to ignore one little day… February 14. Well, how did that work out? So now it’s time to pay the fiddler for a dance that never happened, and endure the undesired repercussions.
I know the “doghouse” fairly well – I even have couch, big-screen T.V., and a wet bar set up in there. All that pain and anguish could have been avoided with a simple gesture, but first you got to get off the couch, leave the poker game, or dock the boat for an hour or so. No easy task for most of us.
As the owner of a jewelry store, I should know better. I’m impressed by guys who actually shop weeks and even months in advance for that special day (at least in her mind!) like Christmas, her birthday, or most importantly an anniversary – don’t mess up on that one! I have personally become calloused to certain holidays or meaningful occasions because I’m usually “up to my butt in alligators” filling orders for those “special days”, making other people’s significant other happy. I guess I sort of overlook my own significant other; she’s generally cool with that, me being an Adonis and a good provider and all. (That’s my story and I’m sticking to it!)
Then there are the ones who give a really nice jewelry gift for their significant other for no apparent reason whatsoever; that’s when I feel pretty bad. Where is it written that there has to be a reason? Call it love! There comes a point in everyone’s life when someday, you really have to appreciate that one person who, regardless of how imperfect you are, will professes unending love no matter how much of a piece of work you or I may be!
When committing random acts of kindness, the gifting of nice jewelry is the perfect thing; flowers shrivel and die, wine and candies get consumed and are no more. Fine gold jewelry can last for generations if taken care of properly. It gives continuous joy every time the gifted one wears it and the memory of why they received it – random or for a very special occasion.
Over the decades (and I have seen, sadly, many), traditions that held for many years became a thing of the past; I remember them as the “Golden Age” of the jewelry business. Gifts of gold jewelry were given for lots of reasons, having that first child, baptisms, first communions, Bar and Bat Mitzvahs, sweet sixteen’s, high school graduations, wedding gifts for both the bridesmaids and grooms. It wasn’t just birthdays, anniversaries and holiday gift giving; only recently the event of Valentine’s Day became a jewelry giving thing!
When you truly analyze it… getting a gift of jewelry is an act of love and thoughtfulness and a quality gift that keeps on giving.
Richard Alan is a designer goldsmith and owner of the Harbor Goldsmith, Marco’s Island Jeweler since 1994. He welcomes your questions about all that glitters. www.harborgoldsmith.com