Thursday, September 24, 2020

After Xmas

Ask the Life Coach


Dear Coach,

After the busyness of the holiday season, I just want to DO NOTHING. However, my Guilt Dragon is saying, “Stop wasting time. Get busy!” Any suggestions on how to slay the Dragon?

Signed,
Dragon Slayer Wannabe


Dear Dragon Slayer,

Congratulations on wanting to slay your dragon and do nothing for a while!

When you slay the Guilt Dragon and allow yourself time to do nothing, you will reverse the stress and fatigue you’re feeling while creating opportunities for “Aha!” moments. You will also slow the cascade of stress-associated hormones and begin to rebalance your biochemistry. Your mind, body and spirit will benefit greatly.

I recognize that we live in a culture that considers idleness as self-indulgent and wasteful—this is where your Dragon gets her energy. However, history teaches us that great minds like Thomas Edison and Albert Einstein valued walks, naps, and opportunities to daydream. “Aha!” moments happen when we unplug and allow our minds to drift and repair. Use this evidence on your Dragon and see what she says.

It sounds like you already know how to unplug, but for those of us who struggle with “doing nothing,” here are a couple of tips: 

  • During the next few weeks, schedule thirty minutes to walk or sit and let your mind drift. 
  • Once a day, unplug from your phone and computer, set the book aside, don’t even attempt to meditate. Just be still and notice what thoughts and feelings come up for you.
  • Every once in a while, slow down as you perform a common task. Walk slowly to the car, take your time washing a dish, or folding laundry. Notice how slowing your movements shifts your attitude. 

Good luck with your dragon slaying. Let me know how you do.

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